Too spiritual for the marriage bed

By Apostle Frederick K.C. Price

Sometimes Christians hear the Word of God concerning faith, and they become so super spiritual that they neglect their family relationships. 

Paul says in Ephesians 5:31: For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh. 

In other words, in the sight of God a married couple becomes one.  Therefore, if they are one, they must each have the same care one for the other.  They should be seeing each other as one – as a unit.  But too often Christians who get so super spiritual think that they are operating in truth and neglect the care of the other in the common things like cleaning the house, washing the dishes, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash or fixing a broken screen.  They don’t have time. They say, “I have to study the Word.  I have to be in prayer. I have to get alone with the Lord.” 

What is that? Is it Faith, Foolishness, or Presumption?

I don’t know why, but it seems to me that there are more women than men who believe they are so super spiritual that they are too holy for sex.  They say, “That is mundane.  That is just ordinary. I have to be more spiritual.  I have to pray in the Spirit.”

This is one of those things that can really cause a disaster in the home.  Because these Christian women come into the knowledge of God and get Spirit-filled, but their husbands aren’t yet saved. And they treat their husbands like dogs.

Now, lady, he may be a dog, but you shouldn’t treat him like a dog.  It is unfortunate that some husbands are dogs: they do act like dogs.  But you’re going to have to learn that you can’t win him by treating him like a dog.  You’re gong to have to win him by treating him like he is somebody, because to God he is somebody.  He is worth enough that God permitted the blood of His only son to be shed to redeem him; so he must be worth something.

He was worth saving if he was worth Jesus dying for him. And if God sees something in him, then you had better start seeing it too.  Perhaps you will have a bit more victory in winning him to Christ once you start treating him as though he is worth something instead of looking down your nose at him.

I ran into this area frequently in counseling where the wife doesn’t want to be a wife in the area of sex.  She is out on the streets casting out demons.  I’m not aware of so many men in this same situation, but I do know some of them, too. 

He gets so super spiritual that he just goes to work, comes home, gets his Bible, goes and locks himself in the car or garage and stays there listening to tapes, reading the Word and praying.  And his poor wife has been waiting for him all day, but he doesn’t have time for her because he is so super spiritual.

He doesn’t have time for such common things as husband-wife relationship.  And he doesn’t realize that he is opening the door for the enemy to come in and mess up his home.

God never intended for married couple to become so super spiritual that they don’t take care of family relationships.  When you neglect that without realizing it, you are giving the enemy advantage over you.  You shouldn’t get so holy that you think sex is unholy.

When it is done in the proper context of the marriage relationship, it is the most beautiful physical relationship that you will ever experience.  If it is not beautiful for you, then you are missing something.

Some Christians become so super spiritual that they just don’t have time for that.  Some men are mistreating their wives, and some wives are mistreating their husbands because they are not allowing proper time for their relationship.  There is plenty of time.  There are twenty-four hours in a day. You can squeeze in a little time, and you are going to have to do it if you want your relationship to work right.
Extracted, with some changes, from Apostle Price’s book Faith, Foolishness, or Presumption?
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